Do not Find Money in Every Pocket

Experience make man Perfect, that's right God has graced us with different types of blessings. We can live a very happy and satisfied life with them. Assume we have several pockets stitched in our dress. There are different kinds of blessings in each pocket like money, parent’s affection, children’s love, sincerity of friends, trust of people, our health etc. Each pocket is featured with a unique blessing, all of them giving us pleasure and ready to protect us strongly from our problems, not even a single one leaving us alone when we are in trouble. In other words we already have solution of the forthcoming problems in our pocket. This all seems to be designed for a happy and ideal life that anyone can dream of.

We earn money subject to our progress. If we do not progress, we cannot earn more money. The money we earn is commensurate with our expense. When we set our mind towards more and more money due to any reason that may be our uncontrollable over expense or our unfair desire of unnecessary storage of money and yet we are not capable to earn that we will try to get it through some other way. As we’re not capable of earning enough money we require for the things we do not need or cannot afford, soon the pocket full of money gets empty but we still need more money. Looking for more money we put our hand into the next pocket. There we find sincerity and trust of a friend instead of money. But we do not need his sincerity and trust this time. We need money, only money. We pose as we are in problem and ask the friend for some monetary help. Since trust is there, the help is there. We are immediately rescued and get money, feel relaxed and spend it. Then the next desire is ahead so is the next pocket and so on.

As we need more and more money there is no question of returning the borrowed money on time or even of returning it at all. So trust leaves the pocket and takes away the sincerity along with it. Pocket is empty and blessing is out.

Now if we face a problem that our friend can solve, we put our hand into the pocket but it’s empty. No help is available and we cannot ask even. This time we’ve to buy help from the one, who is not tested before and which may be without sincerity. We can be betrayed here. Money paid goes waste and problem remains there to hurt us. Now bad luck comes into the pocket along with its allies like anxiety, tension, fear, depression and agony etc. They haunt us. Ah! we are alone having no way to escape.

We were protected from the problems by the blessings in our pockets. If we take care of these blessings and do not convert them into money they’ll happily live with us and will be ready to protect us all the time

Love, loyalty, sincerity, expectations and trust etc., the people keep or repose in us are our assets that elevate our image high and help us to progress. It’s very precious and cannot be bought against money. This is the result of our behaviour and experience of the people dealing with us through a long time. Do not try to convert this all into money. A person is not poor if he does not have money. The poor is one who does not have blessings discussed above.

Situation of bad luck described above can also be the result of misfortune, accident or mismanagement of money etc. In that case the blessings will support and help us to regain our position.

Excuse Shows Incapability

When working at some position you are responsible to do, manage and ensure the work done properly within the stipulated time. You are there to remove the hindrances and solve the problems that slow the work down. The work not done properly and your excuses show your incapability.
It seems you have not involved your sincere efforts to your work.

Wake-up your Powers!

God has blessed you with powers that are full of life, energies and are hyperactive. They rest in your emotions. They are under your will. They can perform a miracle. You just need to get up, wake and stir up your powers and take them along to finish the problem, there you’ll find a solution. Get it and take a high jump out of the hell – you’re in heaven.

Trust

Trust that people repose in us decides and describes our status in our family, business and society.
We'll have as many opportunities in our lives as the people trust us.

The value of our degrees, qualifications, skills and experiences decreases if the people do not trust us.
If we are not in a state of trust we cannot live in the state of trust.
We can never show or express our trust to the people. It’s our image that speaks how trustworthy we are.
Our image remains with the people all the time and continuously updates them what we are saying and what we are doing.
We can give an amount of millions to a person or a company we trust and not a minimum amount to our close relation we do not trust.
The more we are ethical, the more we are trusted.
The more we are trusted, the more we are respected.

Build-up Strong Trust in your Children

People are extremely busy these days in earning money and are more inclined towards their individual gains. Even the closest relations do not care for each other. The only relation with a strong bond of trust is supposed to exist between parents and their children, to be more precise, between parents and the unmarried children. When the only relation left is the one we are discussing and even we fail to build up our strong trust in our children what we have earned in our lives. Trust your children, spend a lot of time with them, listen to them, motivate them and give them full support if they want to do something positive. Convince them if you think they are wrong. Never impose your ideas and feelings on them. They themselves are alive and thinking human beings. Let them go towards their independence. They might have thoughts with a difference. They may progress with their thinking. Never let their confidence be shattered. Let them think themselves and do what they want, but keep an eye on them. Our children may not need our properties and assets after our death. They might have built their own by that time. They need our support today. Their inherited properties are of much less value as compared to their success in their lives. Help and support them, invest your time and money today on them so that they may excel.

All my time, ideas and assets I have today are for the progress of my children.

On Punishing Children

Every child thinks and behaves according to his experience and age. He does what he likes and what he thinks is right. When we think he is doing wrong, we try to stop him and sometimes punish him. We cannot correct him by getting cross or giving punishment because the problem is the way he's thinking. For that we have to tune his mind. We have to convince him to stop doing certain things what we think are wrong or we have to motivate him to do what we think are right. If we successfully convince him he will stop doing the things for ever. If we punish him he will stop doing the things temporarily. It's like using a painkiller that does not cure disease but gives a relief as long as its effect is there. So because the child was convinced before the punishment that he was right he will again be on his way. So never punish a child, always convince him. Sometimes we snub the child because we do not have enough time to convince him. Our behavior towards child also depends upon our own temperament and education. We might be loose tempered and may not be able to convince him. In that case we have to educate ourselves first.

What to Earn How to Earn

A general perception of earning is money. It's a partial truth. If you'll ask me I would say we have four major earnings when we work. i.e.,

1. Money
2. Experience
3. Goodwill or Trust
4. Contact

The money we earn against our services is used for our living.
Rest of three earnings help us to grow and progress. Money that we earn is the crop we harvest. Experience is our land, goodwill and contacts spread seeds and help them to grow. Is it possible for us to harvest the crop without land and growing seeds? Make the area of your land vast. Let more people spread seeds. Never let your land be barren. Never let your seeds be damaged. Do compromise on the crop if possible but never on increase in area and fertility of the land or seeds. Be strict to the quality and service what you are committed to, not with your employer or your customer but with yourself. No matter what you might have charged for, even result of the job may be a financial loss. If your employer or customer does not understand your commitment, quality and service, wait with a long patience. If serving again and again in same style they don’t feel and realise the standard of your work, quietly quit that environment and the lives of those people forever and never turn back. After having a look at your alternatives throughout their world if they come back to you be polite and humble, work in same style but at your own terms, no negotiations at all. If you get in contact with the people who really understand and appreciate your efforts, believe, these people and this environment is a blessing for you. This is the place where you can live for the whole life. Take utmost care of this paradise. Look for a job in a company where there’s a vast scope of learning. Be loyal, work tough and hard with honesty. It will open the door of opportunities to you. Opportunities are the tests that allot a vast piece of land (experience), if you successfully pass them. After passing these tests you’ll have vast experience. During this experience you’ll meet and deal with several people, earn a lot of goodwill and contacts.


Never negotiate the money, ask for the opportunity. If you get it prove yourself to your company with your conduct and hard work, all that you can do for them. Soon the employer himself will offer you the money you deserve because one of the criteria of salary and cadre is your conduct and efficiency in comparison to other employees. You’ll be judged within two three jobs. If your employer is unable to judge any other employer will patronise you. Your work will never go waste.
In case of self employment earning money is reciprocal to the other three earnings i.e., ask for more money and decrease the three factors, agree at low price and have more work, get more experience, more goodwill and more contacts. So the least important of these four earnings is money and the most important are experience, goodwill and contact.


After sometime money will follow you and try to find you everywhere in advance for the jobs you have not committed yet. ‎
In the end I want to include 'learning' an additional benefit of this deal that's absolutely free.
Tag: Children, Trust, Money, Earn

Review your Relationship with your Spouse

Husband and wife both are never equal but both individually have some unique qualities. One more sharp, more intelligent, the other more hard-working, both with different habits.
There’s a gap between every two persons. When both talk together the gap is filled up. We as husband and wife not only talk but all the way live together. The gap can be filled up easily by friendship, loving and valuing each other. We have shared something the most precious, our children, result of our extreme love and ultimate relationship.
There are two bitter realities in our lives. One is disease, other is the death. If case of disease, we and our family are in a severe problem and in case of death we are out and our family has no way other than to cry out in our love and for a series of forthcoming problems that may be financial, social etc.
We’ve two immediate relatives we expect and look at them for relief, one is, husband’s brothers and sisters, other is the wife’s. Do you think they can take responsibility to care our children? I think no. Why to blame them, can we, if it happens with our brother or sister? Again the answer is no. We have balanced our own lives with difficulty. There’s only one person in our life that will support and take care of our children even at the cost of life. That’s our spouse. That person is so important. Do we want to quarrel and fight with that person? Do we want to punish the person for the small mistakes or small deeds that we think are mistakes. We keep our money in banks paying them a lot for their services; keep ourselves at their terms and conditions so they may take better care of our money. Our spouse is taking care of our children or earning for them. Why we are bitter with each other.
Always love your spouse, always overlook the mistakes, we are not always right, we may be wrong some times.
Do motivate your spouse to progress, help and support a lot. In crisis everyone will leave us by and by but not our spouse not even our children. We both are the most important for each other. If we are cross whom will we share our problems with? Will that person be sincere to us as compared to our spouse? Sometimes we lose blessings by our own mistakes or for petty matters or for our ego and when we realise the time has elapsed. Are the petty matters or our ego more important than our spouse? Certainly not.
Review your relationship. Think again. Think again and again.